Dating A Scorpio Man: What To Expect

Dating A Scorpio Man: The Intense Elements of His Personality. What he Holds Back and Why

Key Points

• What to Expect When Dating a Scorpio Man
• The Importance of his Rising Sign
• What his Venus and Moon Reveal
• The Importance of his Mars Sign
• The Importance of his Sun, Jupiter and Saturn + 8th House planets

This is a continuation of the recent post Dating a Scorpio. To get a full overview of what to expect when dating the energy, please read Dating a Scorpio before reading this post. You can also check-out Dating A Scorpio Woman.

Astrology is as complex as an individual personality. We are not one sign, we are all the signs. Different parts of our personality can be described by the qualities of the planets. The point is to integrate parts of ourselves into a unifying whole. I will describe the Scorpio man to understand how the Scorpio energy operates and is expressed through the male lens. 

This post is a general overview, encompassing themes of Scorpio emotions, affection, desires and sexual nature. No matter what planet the person has in Scorpio, its intensity will be determined by that planet and the overall health of the chart. Thus, also determining the frequency of higher or lower expression.

When dating a Scorpio, you should expect a level of intense bonding. This may not be so apparent at first, but intensity oozes out of them. Whether it’s their appearance, their goals or their fiery, passionate nature, you are bound to feel their feverish existence.

For fear of deluge, a Scorpio Mans’ emotions are usually contained. There is much happening beneath the surface, no doubt, but not all get to experience the total capacity, and even fewer are privy to this overwhelming yet mesmerizing world. Depending on what else is happening in the chart, and unless Mercury is in a fiery or masculine sign, the Scorpio default is to hold back or hide their sensitivity. Affections included can be curbed, at least at the level where they can genuinely feel it…

Rising Sign

..this is especially true if their Rising sign is in Scorpio. This part of us screens others before we get personal with them. The guard that stands at the threshold of our inner self. When your person has a Scorpio guard, they are literally on patrol, safekeeping their intense world or protecting you from it. Eerie or fascinating, their initial impression can feel like you are staring at a placid lake, unclear how deep it goes, but sense murmurs below.

Their immediate outlook of you is based on skepticism, scrutiny or a deep understanding of your soul. With a penetrative Scorpio Ascendant, it will have you feeling naked in their midst, and look deep enough, you might see your own placid lake in the reflection of their eyes. If his Ascendant falls in a social air or fire sign, his Scorpio energy will be expressed more openly than in a reticent watery and earth sign.

They may hold back their feelings, but their sexual nature is an entirely different story. This is where their Mars energy comes in.

Mars

Initially, men tend to express their Mars personality. Knowing a man’s Mars can help you understand what he is attracted to sexually, his desires and how he acts on it. Mars represents his carnal, instinctual nature. It is his Mars that fights for what he wants. The house it sits in and the sign express describe what quenches his thirst. A Mars in Scorpio amplifies his Scorpion desires. Equally potent is Mars in Aries. 

If it is in the masculine signs, his aggression is more assertive. In the feminine water and earth signs, that Scorpio energy can be held back, sustained, assessing the situation first. In this case you. If you are the object of his desire, he will either pounce or strategically find a way to get what he wants. 

Intimacy, which includes sexual bonding, is part of the Scorpio experience. If your Scorpio man rides higher vibrations, his sexual bent can give you profoundly satisfying results in the bedroom. If the wavelengths are low, Mars in Scorpio can be underhanded, pushy, controlling or have an unhealthy sexual appetite. 

Venus

The opposite sign of Scorpio is Taurus, and the axis between the two signs is about outer wealth versus inner wealth. The idea is to find a balance (Venus is the natural ruler of Taurus). The notion of that balance depends on the planet, and the sign expressed. However, for the Scorpio energy, the desires and interests, in general, will not be superficial. We can get a broader view when we look at his Venus. Venus rules his wants, what he is attracted to, his personal likes and dislikes, for which his five senses desire. His Venus qualities give him the spark in his eyes.

Venus in Fire signs will offset or create more intensity to his Scorpio energy. The watery Venus will spike his sensitivity, giving him a tendency to be more clandestine about his feelings. Earthy Venus will keep him patient, subtle, more observant. He can express his views, show words of affection readily in the air signs. The Venus in Scorpio is as intense as it gets. Apply all the Scorpio qualities by 1000 and determine if you’re ready for this type of relationship. On the extreme unhealthy end, Venus in Scorpio is the combination that can get obsessed in love, express jealousy and possessive traits. The other end is loyalty and a bond of profound connection.

Moon

The Moon is important to all. The cultural conditioning/gender bias you have been shaped by is irrelevant. Our Moon sign is probably the most significant part of us. The most personal area of life, the energy reveals our inner nature and what we need to survive and thrive emotionally. Our Moon sign needs are non-negotiable.

A man’s Moon can reveal how he was nurtured, mothered. It will reflect what he requires from his partner. How he will care for you. This is the love language(along with Venus) of his soul. The watery Moon will need emotional nurturance. The earth type will help stabilize a ruffled Scorpio energy. If his Moon is in an air sign, he can be more forthcoming about his feelings. The fire moon will stoke that passionate nature. A Moon in Scorpio goes emotionally deep, looks to mesh his soul with another for life. Moon in Scorpio men are usually attached to their mother— the mama’s boy.

If you’re looking to commit, Jupiter, Sun, and 8th house are key things to look out for.

Jupiter

Jupiter is also a significant factor in getting to know your person. The qualities of Jupiter are thought to be the ideal husband for a woman. However, generally speaking, it can summarize someone’s belief system. Ideally, you want to have similar outlooks, an overall compatible mission. Jupiter in fire naturally squares the Scorpio energy. The more fixed the energy, the more set they are in their ways. Fixed energy in Jupiter will be opinionated and defensive with their beliefs. 

Scorpio energy is offset with the mutable and cardinal Jupiter. Part of his personality can soften any harsh, brooding Scorpio force. Jupiter in Scorpio will believe in depth and commitment in love. Their ideal will encompass qualities of attachment and consistency or being awakened and understanding the power and freedom found in transformation. 

8th House and the Planets

The 8th house can reveal another shade to the Scorpio energy, more potently when planets are involved. While Mercury will signify ample thoughts of sex and intimacy, the subject/performance of sex can improve over time. Mars will have potency and a massive appetite in its own house. Jupiter will be as voracious, but along with the Sun, the energy can give your person regenerative powers.

The 8th will either add to that intense Scorpio nature or thwart with Saturn involved. This is an area of commitment, making him less of a player or fuck boy. When Saturn has any influence by aspect to Scorpio energy, there is a sense of responsibility and respect. The downside is that it can also dry up their sexual nature.

Unless Pluto is conjunct any important natal planets or is in the 1st, 7th, 4th, 8th house, the planet may do little to change the effects of the Scorpio energy in your person.

Conclusion

Their intense nature is from the crisis and great changes they are bound to experience throughout their life. However, their response determines their level of positive or negative vibration. The lower expressions are manipulation, paranoia, anxiety, control and trust issues.

If the object of your affection has walked into the belly of their soul, fulfilled the mission and have come out soaring with the wings of an eagle, you’ve got someone pretty solid. Even better, if you stumble upon the rare ones with wings of fire, the reborn phoenix, then you have found yourself someone worthy of attention to consider as a lifelong partner.

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