Dating a Scorpio: Why You Should Stay Away

Dating a Scorpio: Why You Should Stay, Red Flags to Look out for and What Makes Them a Satisfying Lover

The energy can give you a soft velvety feeling, lush to the sensational touch. But, the it can also turn stuffy and become mired in its old ways. What is certain, however, the Scorpio eyes are always watching or protecting you.

I’ve been studying, reading and practicing Astrology for over 20 years now. Astrology is as complex as us human beings. So, it’s hard for me to deduce a person down to just one sign or element. Therefore, if you’re as interested in the intricate nature of the human condition through the lens of astrology while dating, keep reading. It is written as a guide to each signs’ energy and the connection to other key astrological components relevant to the dating scene. In other words, you are not going to know a person, their needs, desires and hang-ups through just one sign, but you can get further insight into their personality by looking at the dynamics of planets and signs, the house it sits in and the other aspects involved. The houses and aspects signify a deeper layer of the personality, which we will only skim through for sake of keeping the complicated as uncomplicated as possible.

Here’s my take on dating the Scorpio energy

Key Points:

• The Scorpio Rising Sign: First Impressions
• The Scorpio Sun: Purpose, destiny and goals
• The Scorpio Moon: Comforts, emotional needs and past patterns
• The importance of Mars and Jupiter and the Sun for the man
• The importance of Venus, Moon and the Sun for the woman

Scorpio Energy

No matter where Scorpio is in your persons’ chart, aside from the outer planets in Scorpio(unless there are significant aspects to natal planets), you will feel the Scorpio intensity on some level. The spying eye, trying to get the upper hand, Scorpios are known for their secretive nature, depth of emotions and interest in places, people and ideas most consider taboo or from which they run for cover.

The Scorpio energy may be attracted to the dark, yet don’t like to be in the dark.

 The Scorpio Rising and First Impressions

You’ll know a Scorpio Ascendant by the intense way they stare you down, their pessimistic lens of the world, yet the bravado they uphold. They are receptive, and much is held back, while intensity oozes out of them. Whether in their silent demeanour or jarring inquisition, their passionate nature comes off quite strong. It can come off as subtle or in full blast. They carry a mysterious aura and can either be alluring or frightening. If you’re naturally attracted to the unknown, you’re likely to be drawn in, mesmerized.

As the sleuth of the zodiac signs, you’re constantly under their spying eye. How you move, the words you choose, your relationship with others. What you show them, or…scratch that, what they have decoded, is the sum language of your soul. Their penetrative nature gives them the upper hand. Trust is the name of the game. A quality they highly value and not easily gained by others. Their Rising sign persona is a give-and-take dynamic. They will provide you with what you want to get what they want. 

Warning: Don’t try to underestimate or overestimate them. Believe me, they will ALWAYS be one step ahead of you. It is programmed in their bloodhound genetics, part of their soul development. They can smell you a mile away.

Do not buy into the hype of the signs’ nefarious reputation. They are not all shadowed in darkness. The highest vibration of the Scorpio energy is to know their shadow side. It is where they have minted these parts of self into their most treasured gems—continue reading, and you’ll know what I mean. Don’t get that shit twisted, plenty of Scorpios have yet to evolve from the stereotype. They can get obsessed, manipulative and controlling. However, the ones that have come out of the inferno with new skin are the gems with a heart of gold. A loyal lover for life. If you have the potential to become the object of their affection, then there will be a second date.

Part of the benefit of having a keen penetrative sense of the world is to know if you are wasting their time. So, if they don’t smell bullshit and you are worthy of their attention, you will get to see them again.

Their comfort level is determined by what you subtly reveal…

Sun in Scorpio

Their Sun Sign is what invigorates them. It is what keeps them burning, what fuels them to live. 

If there is a glimpse of trust found, the door at their Ascendant will be TEMPORARILY unlocked. But take caution and ask yourself if you’re ready to go into the Scorpio den. As it will require either your surrender or an antidote at hand.

Your persons Sun sign isn’t as important on the first few dates unless you are looking to commit. A Scorpio Sun is on the hunt for deeper meaning and purpose. Their goals are always somewhat connected to the depths of life. This is an energy that may demand much from another. By default, they require the same level from themselves. Part of that purpose is to find substantial, life-long relationships—keep that in mind when dating a Scorpio.

If you’ve come this far, there will be a bit of opening up from the Scorpio. You’ve just skimmed the Scorpio purpose. You’ll start to feel their intensity more intensely. Be warned that the deluge can hardly be contained once it is out. Relax; you will *likely* be in their caring warmth if you have no hidden agenda. Their rays may even burn and shock you. They are likely already obsessed with you. But don’t get it twisted; the sleuth lens never comes off. They are always diligent and vigilant to any of your future missteps. They demand loyalty. On the extreme, lower vibrational end, they demand subservient surrender.

Now you have an idea about the Scorpio energy. But you don’t know them until you know their Moon or Venus. At this stage of courtship, you’ve been granted entrance to their personal sphere. This is especially the case for the Scorpio Moon or Venus. Don’t get it twisted; the door will always remain ajar for the naturally suspicious sign. It may never be completely open.

A Moon or Venus in Scorpio

Look into their eyes. Beauty lies beneath the darkness. A soul so deep, so magnetic, it’s hard to resist your own curiousity and dive in. If you dare to take the plunge know that you will never be the same upon returning. Transformation is at the heart of a relationship with a Moon and Venus in Scorpio. Both at a detriment(awkward expression), it is another layer of complication.

The softness of the Moon is crusted with the past, long-held patterns. Emotions go deep; how deep? Sometimes, not even the Scorpio knows. Whatever is out of view, can surface from nowhere, turn into a marsh. But, it can also be cleansing. It is an energy that can either drown your spirits or cleanse your soul. Either way, the truth is revealed.

If you belong and are accepted, you have a life companion. On the opposite end, you have made an enemy you’ll regret ever crossing. Being in a relationship with a Scorpio Venus or Moon isn’t for everyone. There has to be some level of intensity you seek or by which you are thrilled. You must also embrace the dark. But most of all, you must be brave enough to run through the complex tunnels of this relationship, sometimes without a torch or flicker of light to guide you. Stay long enough and you will have the long-lasting love of a Scorpio. Where they will light up their Scorpio embers, warming you during your darkest hours.

As long as you have theirs, they will always have your back. 

Despite the contrary belief that Scorpios don’t forgive, they can. That is if you’ve gotten in this deep with them. But don’t EVER get it twisted; magical energy is within them, for better or worse. Some have yet to discover the inner treasure. It is the power of manifestation and magic itself. As the conjurors of the signs, you won’t know what hit you after the profound experience with the Scorpio energy. It can be a peeling process, sometimes a rebirth, an orgasmic result, an awakening and sometimes even your metaphorical death. 

Yes, there is a chance some of you may be injured for life, denouncing the energy on your dating profile — it all depends on the path you’ve taken with them, the frequency you’ve attracted and the thresholds you decided to cross. Dating a Scorpio either involves being ensnared by the magical being or protected by a loyal companion. Experiencing both is quite possible too.

Dating a Scorpio Man and Woman

Dating a Scorpio man and woman is a different experience. In Astrology, when we are looking for a companion, we can look to planets for compatibility. Aside from Mercury, whose considered for its neutral gender qualities, each natal cosmic body represents feminine or masculine qualities. 

For example, Venus can tell us about our feminine qualities. In a woman’s chart, we see this in her love nature and definition of beauty. A man’s chart shows the type of woman he is attracted to, on top of his own likes and dislikes.

Just as a planet is assigned a specific gender trait, so are the signs. The signs can therefore change the quality of a planet into a balance. Mars is the masculine quality of our personality. A Mars in Scorpio intensity brews within and will not be as outwardly forceful as a Mars in Aries. Mars in Scorpio is the inner, spiritual warrior, whereas Mars is the physical warrior.

A General Overview

Mars in Scorpio

Mars, in brief, is the aggressive male energy, the output. This indicates what he desires in a woman, what he finds sexy; it is the carnal part of himself, the part where his genitals are leading, so to speak. This is pure physical energy and is essential for a woman to know when looking for a man. An energy of potency and regeneration, Mars in Scorpio is very strong in sexual energy. Loyal and will defend to a fault, this is a force that will honor you till its last breath. Depending on what you are looking for, if you are compatible with his Mars, sex can be satisfying, long-lasting or an all-out hedonistic haven.

Jupiter in Scorpio

In brief, Jupiter in a personal chart, represents the qualities in a husband. Along with the 7th house, the qualities are what one finds attractive in a female chart. For a male’s chart it is part of his masculine qualities. The sign can tell you his outlook and how he commits; that is if he commits. Jupiter in Scorpio is fixed in its belief and believes in creating depth and longevity in relationships.

Venus in Scorpio

This is the planet of relationships. Via the expression of the sign, we can infer what a person is attracted to. The beauty of a woman reflects her Venus sign. Venus in a man’s chart is the ideal beauty in his eyes. The Scorpio in Venus is the sultry, mysterious, magnetic and loyal lover, who wants commitment for life.

Moon in Scorpio

In brief, the Moon says much about the past, the nurturing we had, how we ourselves mother and how we want to be mothered. A Scorpio Moon can get attached and smother. Its qualities are similar to a Venus Scorpio. A Moon in Scorpio can be deeply nourishing and involved in a relationship.

Sun In Scorpio

In brief, the Sun is our goals, destiny and what fuels us. The Sun represents her father or the dominant figure, the breadwinner for a woman. The other person’s Sun qualities will either burn or warm a person. Therefore, looking at the male’s Sun, as well as a woman’s, can have its significance. This should be further considered only if looking for something more serious. A Sun in Scorpio is revitalized by creativity, deep purpose and meaning in life.

For further insight check-out Dating a Scorpio Man and Dating a Scorpio Woman!

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